February 11, 2008

Feeling Lonely?

A friend of mine called and expressed how lonely she is.  She says this every time she calls.  No one should be lonely.  People are everywhere.  Why are we lonely?  Yeah, sometimes we miss a particular person.  Yet, sometimes we may be surrounded by people we have nothing in common with.....other times, there really are no people around.  

Alone and lonely are not the same if you think about it.  I have no problems being alone.  Alone means that I'm comfortable to do things with no one around.  Being lonely means that there are things in this life worth doing which can only be done when shared with another person and that person is no longer here.

The computer is like "Information" highway!  Allowing you to research just about everything possible.  The Internet helps relieve loneliness by giving us easier access to people we relate to but often that isn't enough, I agree.  Human interaction is very important and yet quite different than Email or Instant Messaging.  Even talking on the phone isn't the same thing as actually being with a person.

I do know what my poor friend is talking about.  The desire for physical contact...A TOUCH, A  HUG.

"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all," is a common adage in some of our modern poetry and literature but I disagree with this conclusion. What you never experienced.....you can't miss it because you don't know what it feels like.

The loneliest feeling in the world is to have love then have it taken from you.

So I truly understand my friend's loneliness because I too, am a Widow and yes I have good days and bad days which can compromise life at any time.  But, I also know I can't always make their pain go away.  Sometimes, their depression puts me into a state of depression.  Yikes........it's like a ping pong game.....passing that same old feeling back and forth.  But we have to help each other when one is hurting...it's our nature to be kind and caring to our friends.  I'm blessed with wonderful friends.

My friend continued to express how alone she felt and she said to me "what am I going to do??....this Thursday will be Valentine's Day"????  I replied...."Valentine's Day is my Anniversary".  I think she got the message and stopped whining about being lonely because Valentine's Day is approaching!  Every day is for lovers not just Valentine's Day!

I feel the same way about Mother's Day.....every day is Mother's Day because my children make me feel so very special every day not just on Mother's Day!

So, you see Alone and Lonely are NOT the same in my book!

1 comment:

  1. I agree with you here! Wishing you love today and every day of the year! (Hugs) Indigo