I used to judge myself by looking through the eyes of my parents, husband, friends, neighbors and my bosses in the legal field. I then realized I was only running around doing more and more in an effort to gain their approval. It surely does not take long before you end up feeling exhausted, resentful and ready to give up.
I learned that trying to live your life by the expectations of others disconnects you from your own desires. It leaves you feeling sort of empty. The gratification that comes from fulfilling the expectations of others is very little and short-lived most times.
It’s so easy to be resentful about your responsibilities and commitments, and to see them as burdens. Fighting against yourself, and your own obligations, is never in your best interest.
Don't get me wrong, you must do your absolute best in your job as that is rewarding in itself. Be proud to put your name on everything you do. I, do get annoyed when I come across incompetent people that just don't care about their jobs and provide poor service.
My recent experience at the dealership for an oil change took a toll on my nerves! Wow, what a day...........too long of a story to go into but it surely was unpleasant. A twenty minute procedure took over three hours due to people just not doing their job. They were all busy playing with their Smart Phones! Poor Customer Service! Arrrrrrrrrrrg!
I love to write Kudo letters but that day, I hated to write a letter of complaint but it was necessary.
I learned to reclaim the oomph and happiness that is rightfully mine! You have to be your own judge and live by your own expectations. As you reclaim yourself, you will feel like a new person, because you are accomplishing things that are important to you. Who is more important than you?
Get your Oomph back………………start today!