July 23, 2013

I remember when..................

I remember when I was young, I couldn’t wait to turn 16 years old so my mother would allow me to wear lipstick and then turn 18 to get my license to drive.  But, I never heard people say, “I can’t wait until I’m old”.  I do hear people say, “I can’t wait until I retire” but they do not prepare themselves that it is an ending and they like myself have to learn to reinvent yourself.  I was not prepared and I have many friends that were not prepared either.
Planning for all the what-ifs of senior life is especially important if you are living alone. And let's face it, even if you have a partner and/or kids, there's no guarantee any of them will still be around when you need them. Do you know who is going to be there to step in with comfort, guidance and rational medical advice when you are old? 
More people are single for a variety of reasons, some have delayed getting married and eventually let go of the idea and others are single because of divorce or entered widowhood unexpectantly, an experience that can be especially difficult economically for women. What's more, those marrying later may choose (or be forced to choose) not to have children.
The choices we make as young adults have ripple effects through life. No one prepared me for the lessons when I was young to enter old age and no one advised me of the many resources needed.
So many adults live alone and are learning new and often richer ways of living by going solo. Still, it is difficult to grow old alone.
Your life maybe different if you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth and/or received an inheritance which made your financial life better.  It is hard for a woman to struggle alone and raise your children by yourself.  I’ve been on both sides of the track and understand completely.
I hope the younger generation learn to prepare for their retirement now, as it is crucial.


  1. We are ill prepared for old age. Not a day goes by that we don't kick ourselves for not thinking ahead. Because here we are senior citizens.

  2. There were times when I thought I might never be able to retire, but here I am 3 years retired now and loving it. I do have to live a simple lifestyle but then I always have anyway. One thing I wasn't prepared for is that now it takes me longer to get things done. I had no idea that I'd slow down so much so fast. But really it isn't a problem as I have plenty of time since I don't work. Living alone was never something I planned for but then plans rarely work as we think they should. I just take it one day at a time and make the best of what comes or doesn't come as the case may be. With the world as it is today most of my kids think they'll never be able to retire.

  3. Lot of wisdom here. I hope someone reads it and applies the logic. YOu are so right about folks seeing a dream world of 6 Saturdays and 1 Sunday. If they do not prepare (especially mentally) they are in for a great surprise.

    Most folk wiggle and muddle thru, but others are over whelmed.
    Again you have written some great advice. Love ya.

    ((HUGS)) from somewhere in Nebraska

  4. If I had known I was gonna live this long I would have taken better care of myself, Enjoyed your comments on getting older, it happens to a lot of people.
    Saw your comment on Shipslog.

  5. Hi Rose! So nice to "meet" you. I'm happy to be flowing you now too. You've offered very good advice today!

  6. this is slightly off topic but was the first thing that came to mind when i read this....

    "rich people are rich, because they live like they are poor...

    poor people are poor, because they live like they are rich"!!

    we have prepared for our retirement and sometimes i feel like those who didn't, skate by with all the assistance provided!!

  7. Glad I took my fathers advice growing up regarding financial matters.
    I am not super rich but comfortable which is so important.

  8. Dear Rose, Reading your posts is like reading my thoughts.
    I do wish I was prepared and just a little bit wiser and less naive.
    I don't think one ever wants to think "what if" this or that yet as the kids say, "life happens".
    I lost my parents when I was quite young, I was sixteen when my dad died and 29 when my mom died and quite trusting.
    Your thoughts on this are very wise.
    Blessings dear. Catherine xo